Chronicles of my relationship
Hey guys, I am back with another blog and this one will be a massive post with some of my writing with my girlfriend of 2 years now, Sophie. We will be discussing some stuff together and I’d love to see what you guys think of our writing as a team as well as leaving feedback of your relationships and what they are like as well as saying how long you have been together. I’d love some feedback on this too so feel free to say how you feel about my content. Let’s get right into the blog post.
We will be talking about the lovely places we have visited and how we’ve affected each other’s mental health. It’s been 2 years and 2 months together and in that time we have accomplished so much together so we thought we would write something together about it.
When I first met Paul I knew he was really different in the way that he seemed to be loyal, caring, and much, much more. The first day I met him I knew it would turn into something special, but I had no idea how amazing it would actually turn out to be. In the early days of our relationship in January 2017 I had extreme anxiety issues which I could barely cope with and Paul helped and still is helping so much with all that.
It is like he helps me take my mind off of stressful things and we have also been on so many mini adventure days which have been great purely because I have been with Paul never mind the places themselves. Those things along with other things have helped me mentally as Paul is such a great listener.
January was when it all changed for me. I was so nervous about meeting Sophie because I knew how badly everything beforehand with girls for me had been. Obviously, it wasn’t all bad but most things turned sour in the end. She’s the best thing to ever happen to me. I really haven’t ever struggled before to put into words how much someone means to me but with Sophie I have because she’s just on another level of amazing from anyone before. She’s helped me grow so much as a person and conquer so many fears.
She’s helped me grow confident enough to go to interviews without having a breakdown, made dealing with stress so much easier for me by just listening to me so I don’t have to bottle anything up, made me see the truth in people and made it easier to let go of them and she’s also made me brave enough to blog for you guys and speak out about my mental health issues. I honestly want to spend my entire life with her and that’s been my mindset since we met because I knew right away that I had someone special in my life and so many people have told me how great we are together.
As Paul has said in the above paragraph about helping him mentally, it has been great to know that I have had such a positive effect on him and that he feels he is improving. I have never ever had that effect on someone and to have made someone I am so close to feeling good in themselves is amazing. Paul has actually done the exact same with me. I have recently started to build up a business venture and Paul has been 100% behind me on the project. Before Paul, I could never have had the guts or courage to even think about starting that kind of thing but now I have him in my life it is great to know I have support.
Paul has had such a positive effect on my life it’s unreal and my friends etc have said it is amazing I have found someone who makes me so happy. In May 2017, I took Paul up to Anstruther in Fife for the weekend since it was close to his birthday. Although the weather was not perfect, the time spent with him was perfect as it was just us together.
Anstruther with Sophie was amazing and even though we had to deal with a ton of rain, heavy showers and a thunderstorm. Even that night we had barely any sleep between us but that couldn’t ruin a perfect weekend with her.
I also introduced to her to an area that was close to my heart because she means that much to me. My great gran died in 2011 but she had lived in a small Fife town called Leven. As I knew how lovely the beach was and some of the areas surrounding were really nice too I felt like Sophie was worthy of knowing everything about my times there growing up. She has also shown me some areas I had never heard of too in return for where I’ve shown here.
She hadn’t known some of the areas near my house before she moved in and even though this was only small Glasgow areas, she really showed an interest in getting to know them all. We have been so many places now and on 31st May 2017 because I knew how much she loved Anastacia I came up with a plan so that she could spend my birthday with me and also see her idol. We went to Edinburgh the day after my birthday to see her and it honestly meant the world to me seeing the smile on Sophie’s face because she got to see her idol.
All these things we have written about and more honestly mean the world to me and will be stored as amazing memories forever and I’m sure we will continue to. Paul has been the best thing to ever happen in my life and will be eternally thankful and grateful.
Sophie is by far the best thing to ever happen to me and we will always continue to make memories together as a team. I’m so proud of her and so lucky to have her as I’m so much better now because of that. You’ll have so many blogs from me because of her and that’s the best thing.
In this chapter, we will just be speaking about our first summer together in 2017 and how our mental health has been through that period of time. We both hope you enjoy this chapter about our summer 2017, our mental health and our aims for the rest of that year.
On my birthday which was the 7th of August, we had planned to go a lovely drive in parts of Scotland we enjoyed being before. At first that day we were unsure what the weather would be like since it was quite rainy, but we decided to go out anyway. Thankfully as we started to drive, the weather brightened up as we headed over to Inverkip, Greenock which was one of our many stops that day. Inverkip has a gorgeous Marina where you can see lots of lovely boats docked and there are lots of beautiful houses.
It is a very picturesque area. We then drove the lovely scenic route down to Largs, through Wemyss Bay, Fairlie, Skelmorlie and then we got to Largs. We grabbed some food, seen the sights and got going again, this time along to Ardrossan which is a lovely place. We sat at a seafront part where lots of people had picnics, and later we moved along to the harbour which was equally as beautiful. After we sat at Ardrossan we drove through lovely little places such as Saltcoats, Dunure and eventually got to Ayr. I really enjoyed my birthday that day because of our travels and even more so because it was my first birthday with Paul so that made it even more special.
Seeing Sophie smile so much on her birthday was amazing. I was super nervous about what I had got her and what we could do because I had never been with someone on their birthday before. Turned out I had done a remarkably good job and this helped me more with my mental health too. Knowing you’re doing good for your partner’s wellbeing is so good mentally as you just believe in yourself so much more.
Being with Sophie has had zero negatives for me and that’s what makes what we have so special. The fact I blog now is purely down to the positives she’s caused for my life and I can’t thank her enough for that. We’ve been other places around Scotland such as Fort William, Oban, Aberfoyle and Callander. If you ever get the chance to go around Scotland I recommend these places and the ones Sophie mentioned above as they are all absolutely beautiful. If it wasn’t for our relationship I’d have never been anywhere like this so she’s helped me explore and expand my world too.
Exploring these places with Paul has worked wonders with my mental health too as it allows me to take my mind off everything and just focus on the there and then of the time. I am so glad I have been able to help and make a difference to Paul and his mental health just by taking him these places alone. I really hope I have helped in other ways than that obviously but travelling around Scotland has been great with him. Earlier this year also we had travelled down to Dumfries and Galloway.
Neither of us had really been there before so it was new to us. We drove the tourist route which has lovely points and areas such as Loch Ken which is a beautiful place if you want to stop on a break from driving. Eventually, the tourist route leads to the seaside town of Ayr which is also lovely.
My aims for the rest of the year are so well set in my mind and I know fine well we can achieve these together. I have my individual aims too and these are to maintain my happiness, continually be at my best for Sophie, progress even more with my blogs, help as many people as possible with their mental health and to manage to get a job and progress well at the beginning in that. My aims for our relationship involve just keeping it as good as it’s been so far since we’ve been together, improving our mental health together, building our bond even more than we already have and by just succeeding in our main projects.
As Paul has said above, I also hope we can keep our relationship as positive and strong as it has been so far. I really hope I have and still can be a major source of support for Paul, his job searching and also his blogging. I really do my best to be a rock for him, mentally and with absolutely everything else.
This is an insider into how just how strong we are together. I really hope one day you all have support like we do for each other. We’ve grown together and that’s what makes writing these blogs so special to me. Since January, Paul has helped my mental health so much it is unreal and I will be eternally grateful. I also hope our talk about or travels will perhaps inspire you to do the same and go places you have never been before.
The time that I have had with Paul have been some of the best I have had in life. Before I met Paul I wasn’t looking for or too bothered about whether I was in a relationship, but I am so glad I met him. I moved in with Paul after about five months, which I know to some people may be far far too soon but for us, it felt like the right time. We have been so many places together in and around Scotland and it feels great to have seen all the different things and places with Paul.
I was the same before Sophie too. Relationships before her had gone horribly for me and just a week before I had first spoken to Sophie I tweeted out that I was staying single and maybe getting back into the grind of making Youtube videos. To this day I have gone nowhere video making and I barely have time to game each day now as I’m always busy exploring new roads and places with Sophie as well as growing physically and mentally with her. The 2 years and 2 months that we have been together has gone so well and I cannot wait for what is to come in the future.
In some ways, I feel bad that I have basically stopped Paul from doing his things on Youtube again but on the other hand, I am so glad we have built up what we have. I don’t mean that to sound bad or whatever but I guess things just happen in life, a thing I have learned a lot recently. I have been so glad to have Paul in my life as my rock, to support me and to just be there for me.
In November 2017 there were two losses in my family in a very short space of time. Firstly, my Aunt Kate who had been very ill for a long time with an awful illness sadly passed away in the middle of November and then less than a fortnight later my Gran fell ill and passed away, this was something nobody expected to happen to my Gran as it was so sudden.
This was a very distressing and upsetting time for me and I am so grateful Paul was there to get me through it all and support me. He has helped me develop in so many ways and I love him for it. I hope he feels the same way if I have helped him.
The worst of my mental health situations came before Sophie was in my life but while she has been in it there has been some difficult situations to deal with. I had been struggling with rejection from jobs that I had applied for last year and I built up a feeling that left me thinking that I was never gonna get one. She’s also helped me deal with a lot of the crap that comes from people throwing their two cents into situations that don’t involve them. I do take an unbelievable amount of hate from people who will never know me but Sophie sees the real me and constantly supports me when the hate comes.
We just work as the best team ever and we take every problem each other has and bulldoze through it. I had some real disappointment in 2018 with my gran being in the hospital as well as losing my job because of a lack of work in January 2018. I know that it’ll always be okay because I have Sophie by my side. I don’t want to sound like one of those soppy couples who share every part of our relationship, believe me, we aren’t. There are private things too.
Chapter 4-The Factfile
Fact number one from Paul- I probably have one of the most ever-changing sleep patterns known to humans.
Fact number one from Sophie- A lot of people are amazed at my height, which is just over 6ft.
Fact number two from Paul-I am 5ft10 which surprises people because I was taller than a lot of people my age as a kid.
Fact number two from Sophie- Although I’m not really one to read horoscopes, my star sign is Leo with my Birthday being in August.
Fact number three from Paul- I don’t believe in horoscopes but there have been a few days where my horoscope has almost matched exactly how that day ended up going.
Fact number three from Sophie- My first car was a little Fiat Punto.
Fact number four from Paul- Gaming has been a lifelong hobby for me. I have owned a Nintendo 64, GameBoy, Gameboy Advanced, Gamecube, PS1, PS2, Xbox 360, Nintendo DS, PS3, Wii and now I currently use my PS4.
Fact number four from Sophie- I have had many hobbies over the years which include dancing classes, golf, karate, drawing etc. I do not do any sport or outdoor related hobbies at the moment however I still draw from time to time and I am definitely going to try and do more exercise even if it is just at home.
Fact number five from Paul- I am majorly left handed nowadays but I could write with my right hand a lot when I was younger as a result of fracturing my left wrist, therefore, being unable to write with that.
Fact number five from Sophie- I have been to a few concerts over the years. I have seen Lady Gaga, Biffy Clyro, You Me at Six, Enrique Iglesias, Adrian Edmondson & The Bad Shepherds, The Script, and last but my favourite of all of them Anastacia.
Fact number six from Paul- I have never been abroad in my entire life. I have made several trips to England but never anywhere else and I had to turn my chance of going abroad to Spain down because of my college induction being when I would have been away.
Fact number six from Sophie- I am the complete opposite of Paul, having been many holidays in different parts of Spain over the years and also Malta. In August 2016 I was lucky enough to get the opportunity to go to New York with family and my 21st birthday happened to fall on the second day of the holiday so it was pretty amazing.
Fact number seven from Paul- My music taste is highly varied and has been for a number of years now. I can listen to older music like Guns and Roses then be listening to chart music or DJ Music.
Fact number seven from Sophie- In 2014 during her tour of shows, I met Dawn French and got her autograph. I along with many others saw her shortly after the show in Glasgow at the stage door which was actually very close to the main entrance to the theatre. Dawn French is one of my idols along with Jennifer Saunders. I more or less grew up watching French and Saunders sketches on TV so to meet Dawn was a dream come true and it is great to have a token of that with her autograph too. Now I would absolutely love to meet Jennifer!
Fact number eight from Paul- My lucky number has always been 7 and I have no idea why. I used to always get this number on the back of football kits that I had bought when I was younger too and it’s stuck with me for life.
Fact number eight from Sophie- I am pretty fussy when it comes to hygiene etc. In school, I always used to carry hand wash in my bag for little things like before eating at lunch, because let us face it you never know how many germs you have on your hands! That is something that has stuck with me and I always feel I have to carry hand wash everywhere and I keep it in the car with me too.
Fact number nine from Paul- My mental health is at it’s best because of Sophie and it will hopefully always stay this good because of what we have together.
Fact number nine from Sophie- I will agree with Paul on his previous fact. My mental health has also got so much better since being with Paul.
Fact number ten from Paul-Sophie is the best person ever and she has had the most positive impact on my life.
Fact number ten from Sophie- Again, I will agree with Paul and throw it right back at him. He has been there through tough times and when friends have been absolute idiots. He has made me see beyond the bad things.
Anyway, guys, this has been our story. I hope you all enjoyed reading this and getting to know both myself and Sophie throughout this blog. Thank you again from Paul!
I also hope you have all enjoyed our chronicles blog. Thank you, Sophie!